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It Takes Balls to Build a Business

Read more about Digital Marketing in your business here. "So it's three stories tall and there's nothing between you and certain death but a short net? And you're going to take my little man there?" I was cautiously optimistic about Topgolf, a new business in our town...

What the World Needs From You

The world needs to hear that you love them, that their worries are small in the hands of God, that love and presence prevail and that abundance welcomes abundance. You must align to the spirit of love and generosity before your wallets will be full. The money you seek...

Fear as the Barometer of Soul-Alignment

I had a gut feeling from the time I read the email. Something was just off. I didn't care for the tone, the lack of personal greeting, the demands. My gut said no. Then I listened to others. I knew it was what I SHOULD do. On the day of the meeting, I learned more...

Embracing Your Feminine Energy is Not Submitting to a Gender Role

Picture it: Sicily Frigid Ohio, five years ago. The bottom of my stainless steel sink is buried under a layer of baby bottles that must be washed tonight or her 3 AM wakeup is not going to go well. Tears stream down her face as soon as I walk away to do anything. The...

5 Ways to Fit in Self-Care When You Have Little Kids

Read more about Parenting. What is self-care? Self-care means taking care of yourself to refuel, or replenish your own energy. It starts with the basics like sleep, eating, and hygiene, but we often forget that mentally, emotionally, and spiritually we need to do...

How Do I Set Up New Clients With An Invoice and Contract Using 17Hats?

Read more about Digital Marketing for Inspiring Entrepreneurs here. If you're a new entrepreneur or coach, you're probably wondering how to get your client on-boarded in a professional way. When I started, I used DocuSign for contracts and Acuity for scheduling and...

How I Organized Our Toys to Get Our Sanity Back

Read more about finding your Soul Truth in Parenting. When we arrived home, the carpet was missing. Well, it seemed to be missing. It was covered by a layer of balls, PJ Masks, markers, paper, books, and socks. So many socks. My husband made the usual comment that it...

Angry? Where Are Your Boundaries?

If you’re an empath, having kids revealed any way you gave too much of yourself to the more narcissistic partner. Whatever imbalance existed--in meeting their needs over meeting your own--will be revealed because your kids don’t have an alternative; they depend on you...

The Pink Crayons: A Story to Help Your Child With Friendship

The other night I was snuggled up next to my daughter in her Elsa blanket, having our nightly chat before she goes to sleep. We pretend she's going to stay in her bed, but mostly she just sneaks into my room in the dark, silently waiting for my heart to stop when I...

Is Your Missing Intention For Your Relationship Sabotaging It?

“What’s your intention for your relationship?” << That’s one of the first questions I ask my clients. If I could sprinkle pixie dust on your relationship to make it perfect, whether it's with your spouse or child, what does that perfect look like, for you?...

A Conscious Parenting Coach is someone that has been extensively trained in child development, psychology, mindfulness, and emotional intelligence. As a Conscious Parenting Coach, my focus is the relationship, either between the parent and the child or between both parents. Because our children’s behavior is their best attempt at getting a need met, undesired behavior from the child most often points to a parent who, for some reason, isn’t able to tune in to the child’s needs.

My job as a Conscious Parenting Coach is to identify what is blocking the parent from tuning in, and guide them to resolve it so they can fully connect with their child. The theory behind Conscious Parenting is that we all have at least one child that will “trigger” us, meaning they awaken some unresolved emotional pain from our own childhoods and that, by healing those pieces of us as they arise, we can actually use the relationship with our child for personal growth.

“True spiritual mastery is found in the muck, not the mountaintop.” – Dr. Shefali Tsabary

As it turns out, I realized one day a few years into this journey that it was my husband who was non-stop triggering me. It suddenly dawned on me that my relationship with HIM was going to be the one I could use to heal and grow. I began focusing on the uncomfortable feelings and thoughts I was having around him and turned the lens entirely inward to see what, in me, needed attention.

That work led to writing my book, The Authentic Wife: Uncaging Yourself Through Marriage. It is so important to me that parents whose marriage is suffering first make an attempt to use their marriage’s challenges for their own personal growth, because I know that those same issues will come up again in their next relationship if they split and that by healing them, they also heal those places within their child.

Divorce, in my opinion, is a mostly avoidable trauma that can be devastating for the child. For me, it was important that my conscience was clear and that I knew I’d done as much healing and personal growth as I could before ending my marriage. I knew that there would be no guarantees but that it was imperative for me that I first try to evolve from this woman who was an empath and enabler before I threw in the towel. Obviously, someone in an abusive relationship shouldn’t stick around to grow, but that wasn’t the case in my marriage, and so I decided to use every argument as an opportunity to move toward healthy boundaries, trust, self-love, healthy interdependence, and emotional distinctiveness.

“Relationships are part of a vast plan for our enlightenment, the Holy Spirit’s blueprint by which each individual soul is led to greater awareness and expanded love. Relationships are the Holy Spirit’s laboratories in which he brings together people who have the maximal opportunity for mutual growth.” – Marianne Williamson

If you’re looking for someone that will join you in thinking there’s something wrong with your child or spouse that can be fixed, I’m sorry, but I’m not your girl.  I can help you understand them and what they need, but my goal is to help you see what YOU need and why not getting it is creating conflict in your relationships.  This is a path upward and outward, away from who you are today and back to who you were before a parent or someone else in your life told or showed you you weren’t good enough. I promise you that you ARE good enough and you are worthy of relationships that reflect and honor your worth.

First you must honor your worth within.