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It Takes Balls to Build a Business

Read more about Digital Marketing in your business here. "So it's three stories tall and there's nothing between you and certain death but a short net? And you're going to take my little man there?" I was cautiously optimistic about Topgolf, a new business in our town...

What the World Needs From You

The world needs to hear that you love them, that their worries are small in the hands of God, that love and presence prevail and that abundance welcomes abundance. You must align to the spirit of love and generosity before your wallets will be full. The money you seek...

Fear as the Barometer of Soul-Alignment

I had a gut feeling from the time I read the email. Something was just off. I didn't care for the tone, the lack of personal greeting, the demands. My gut said no. Then I listened to others. I knew it was what I SHOULD do. On the day of the meeting, I learned more...

Embracing Your Feminine Energy is Not Submitting to a Gender Role

Picture it: Sicily Frigid Ohio, five years ago. The bottom of my stainless steel sink is buried under a layer of baby bottles that must be washed tonight or her 3 AM wakeup is not going to go well. Tears stream down her face as soon as I walk away to do anything. The...

5 Ways to Fit in Self-Care When You Have Little Kids

Read more about Parenting. What is self-care? Self-care means taking care of yourself to refuel, or replenish your own energy. It starts with the basics like sleep, eating, and hygiene, but we often forget that mentally, emotionally, and spiritually we need to do...

How Do I Set Up New Clients With An Invoice and Contract Using 17Hats?

Read more about Digital Marketing for Inspiring Entrepreneurs here. If you're a new entrepreneur or coach, you're probably wondering how to get your client on-boarded in a professional way. When I started, I used DocuSign for contracts and Acuity for scheduling and...

How I Organized Our Toys to Get Our Sanity Back

Read more about finding your Soul Truth in Parenting. When we arrived home, the carpet was missing. Well, it seemed to be missing. It was covered by a layer of balls, PJ Masks, markers, paper, books, and socks. So many socks. My husband made the usual comment that it...

Angry? Where Are Your Boundaries?

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The Pink Crayons: A Story to Help Your Child With Friendship

The other night I was snuggled up next to my daughter in her Elsa blanket, having our nightly chat before she goes to sleep. We pretend she's going to stay in her bed, but mostly she just sneaks into my room in the dark, silently waiting for my heart to stop when I...

Is Your Missing Intention For Your Relationship Sabotaging It?

“What’s your intention for your relationship?” << That’s one of the first questions I ask my clients. If I could sprinkle pixie dust on your relationship to make it perfect, whether it's with your spouse or child, what does that perfect look like, for you?...

“What’s your intention for your relationship?” << That’s one of the first questions I ask my clients.

If I could sprinkle pixie dust on your relationship to make it perfect, whether it’s with your spouse or child, what does that perfect look like, for you?

Because if you reeeaallly want to change things, it just won’t be possible if your actions are sabotaging it.

When it comes to parenting, it’s much easier to say yes, of course, we want to have a peaceful and connected relationship. We want our kids to love us and even look up to us.

But when it comes to our spouse, I know it can be hard to let down your guard.

Declaring that my intention was for my marriage to work felt like another heavy burden when it already seemed as though I’d been carrying all of them anyway. It made it feel like I was responsible when I *knew* it was all his fault.

I was stubborn, resentful, and angry. I didn’t want to add anything else to my load. I just wanted him to be better.

The problem is, though, that nothing would actually change. It couldn’t get better or worse because I was in this place with no destination in mind. I was still perusing the travel sites, thinking I’d just know when I found the perfect resort.

I felt like I was a victim of circumstance. I couldn’t do anything but let life play out. It was up to him to grow up.

Imagine your marriage right now as this huge island. There are two big ferries at the dock. One takes you to the next island over, and rumor is that people are throwing back fruity drinks while dancing together to Jimmy Buffett tunes over there. The other takes you to single life. [Insert your vision of single life here.]

Nothing’s going to happen until YOU decide which boat to board. The relationship’s scenery just isn’t gonna improve.

Our problems happen on this island because we’ve made all the boarding decisions that got us there. We’ve co-created this current dynamic just by the thousands of choices & interactions that put us together on the boat that took us here in the first place.

So now if you want to change things, you have to co-create something new, and you can’t do that until you take decisive action.

The first step to changing a marriage from conflict junkyard to partnership paradise is making the choice of which boat to board: The SS Partnership or The HMS Whole Bed To Myself.

Because I promise you chances are really good they’ll come running after you with bags packed once you walk decisively in a new direction.

Which ticket are you ready to buy?