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The Soul Truth Self-Coaching Process by Beth Rowles

Read more about coaching for Parenting or Marriage. Here's a quick intro and how-to on my Soul Truth Self-Coaching Process! Download the workbook here. Transcript: Hey Friends! Welcome! Today I’m going to introduce you to the Soul Truth Self-Coaching Process which is...

Don’t Lose Another Day Waiting to Figure Out How to Live Your Life – A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood Review

Inside the living room, the old man laying on a mattress is literally on his death bed. He looks over to his son and says, "I am so sorry, son. It’s not fair, you know? I think I’m just now starting to figure out how to live my life. I always loved you." If I was...

It Takes Balls to Build a Business

Read more about Digital Marketing in your business here. "So it's three stories tall and there's nothing between you and certain death but a short net? And you're going to take my little man there?" I was cautiously optimistic about Topgolf, a new business in our town...

What the World Needs From You

The world needs to hear that you love them, that their worries are small in the hands of God, that love and presence prevail and that abundance welcomes abundance. You must align to the spirit of love and generosity before your wallets will be full. The money you seek...

Fear as the Barometer of Soul-Alignment

I had a gut feeling from the time I read the email. Something was just off. I didn't care for the tone, the lack of personal greeting, the demands. My gut said no. Then I listened to others. I knew it was what I SHOULD do. On the day of the meeting, I learned more...

Embracing Your Feminine Energy is Not Submitting to a Gender Role

Picture it: Sicily Frigid Ohio, five years ago. The bottom of my stainless steel sink is buried under a layer of baby bottles that must be washed tonight or her 3 AM wakeup is not going to go well. Tears stream down her face as soon as I walk away to do anything. The...

5 Ways to Fit in Self-Care When You Have Little Kids

Read more about Parenting. What is self-care? Self-care means taking care of yourself to refuel, or replenish your own energy. It starts with the basics like sleep, eating, and hygiene, but we often forget that mentally, emotionally, and spiritually we need to do...

How Do I Set Up New Clients With An Invoice and Contract Using 17Hats?

Read more about Digital Marketing for Inspiring Entrepreneurs here. If you're a new entrepreneur or coach, you're probably wondering how to get your client on-boarded in a professional way. When I started, I used DocuSign for contracts and Acuity for scheduling and...

How I Organized Our Toys to Get Our Sanity Back

Read more about finding your Soul Truth in Parenting. When we arrived home, the carpet was missing. Well, it seemed to be missing. It was covered by a layer of balls, PJ Masks, markers, paper, books, and socks. So many socks. My husband made the usual comment that it...

Angry? Where Are Your Boundaries?

If you’re an empath, having kids revealed any way you gave too much of yourself to the more narcissistic partner. Whatever imbalance existed--in meeting their needs over meeting your own--will be revealed because your kids don’t have an alternative; they depend on you...

Heart armor used to do the job of my missing boundaries. Maybe you know this armor as your ego. It’s that voice inside your head that judges others as good or bad to make you feel safe and good. It’s always trying to build us up so we don’t feel pain. The more hurts to the heart, the thicker the armor. And every single trauma you experience adds a layer of shiny new chainmail.

Eventually, our heart is so guarded that we can’t connect with anyone. Even those we love the most like our children. Relationship requires connection. Connection is the flow of energy between us. Usually, that energy manifests as communication, but sometimes it’s physical affection, or for young children, being tuned in enough to meet their needs. Sometimes called intimacy, this connection is how we understand each other.

Connection feels uncomfortable if we have a history of emotional enmeshment and an armored heart. We don’t want to take on others’ pain and we don’t know how to feel their experience with them without taking it on or feeling responsible for it. That’s where boundaries come in. Boundaries are knowing where you end and where everyone else starts. It’s the limits you hold that honor your worth. It’s how you protect yourself from the expression and projection of other’s pain. Hold out your arms and look at your fingertips. At that length, all around your body (under your feet and over your head too, front and back) is your energetic boundary. That’s where you end. You’ll ground yourself inside this space and allow the energy of your emotions to flow within it, and sometimes strengthen the edges when someone’s trying to attack your sense of self.  If you’re curious to know more, I’m finishing up a six week series on boundaries right now in my Facebook Group, The Authentic Wives Club.

When I was told I needed to reconnect with my husband, I was completely against it because at some level I knew that I couldn’t do that yet without understanding more about boundaries and how to be authentic without fear of hurting him by just being who I am–doing the things I want to do and making choices that are best for me.

Taking off the armor is a process of healing intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually.  Then we can establish the healthy edges of our being and know how to stop people before they cross them–how to move away from unconscious behavior and how to hold limits without attacking back.

Without healing there’s no boundaries, without boundaries there’s no unguarded heart, without an unguarded heart there’s no vulnerability, without vulnerability there’s no empathy, without empathy there’s no connection, and without connection there’s no relationship.