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Achieve Your DREAMS… or Just Figure Out Where to Go On Vacation

Well, when we can all leave the house again! Coronavirus has us stuck now but there are still plenty of decisions to make. Yesterday I found myself whipping out something I made a while ago - the DREAM process. I was trying to decide whether we needed to invest in...

Working at home with kids? Read my 10 best tips.

You know how you try to carry all the groceries in with one trip - sliding bag handles up your arm or grabbing as many as you can without asking for help? Or maybe help isn't even around? I think we have a tendency to be as efficient as possible, to learn as much as...

The Soul Truth Self-Coaching Process by Beth Rowles

Read more about coaching for Parenting or Marriage. Here's a quick intro and how-to on my Soul Truth Self-Coaching Process! Download the workbook here. Transcript: Hey Friends! Welcome! Today I’m going to introduce you to the Soul Truth Self-Coaching Process which is...

Don’t Lose Another Day Waiting to Figure Out How to Live Your Life – A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood Review

Inside the living room, the old man laying on a mattress is literally on his death bed. He looks over to his son and says, "I am so sorry, son. It’s not fair, you know? I think I’m just now starting to figure out how to live my life. I always loved you." If I was...

It Takes Balls to Build a Business

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What the World Needs From You

The world needs to hear that you love them, that their worries are small in the hands of God, that love and presence prevail and that abundance welcomes abundance. You must align to the spirit of love and generosity before your wallets will be full. The money you seek...

Fear as the Barometer of Soul-Alignment

I had a gut feeling from the time I read the email. Something was just off. I didn't care for the tone, the lack of personal greeting, the demands. My gut said no. Then I listened to others. I knew it was what I SHOULD do. On the day of the meeting, I learned more...

Embracing Your Feminine Energy is Not Submitting to a Gender Role

Picture it: Sicily Frigid Ohio, five years ago. The bottom of my stainless steel sink is buried under a layer of baby bottles that must be washed tonight or her 3 AM wakeup is not going to go well. Tears stream down her face as soon as I walk away to do anything. The...

5 Ways to Fit in Self-Care When You Have Little Kids

Read more about Parenting. What is self-care? Self-care means taking care of yourself to refuel, or replenish your own energy. It starts with the basics like sleep, eating, and hygiene, but we often forget that mentally, emotionally, and spiritually we need to do...

How Do I Set Up New Clients With An Invoice and Contract Using 17Hats?

Read more about Digital Marketing for Inspiring Entrepreneurs here. If you're a new entrepreneur or coach, you're probably wondering how to get your client on-boarded in a professional way. When I started, I used DocuSign for contracts and Acuity for scheduling and...
Ahh, that new baby smell..

I remember those first few nights after my newborn arrived.  I’d had an induction and spent the entire week in the hospital, half of it getting to and then in labor.  I had her naturally, but had caved and used the epidural on the second day (I feel contractions in my back and it was just too much).

I was super fortunate to have an amazing midwife who listened to me when I pointed out that my baby went into distress when they broke my water, and pumped water back in, thus avoiding the c-section they kept threatening!

I would so have loved to have a home birth.  But I digress.

Those first few days, after getting over the initial exhaustion of not having slept in over a hundred hours, were so weird – everything was different – it felt like I’d entered a brand new life even though I was in the same house.

I knew nothing really about detachment and living in the moment and meditation at this point in my life.  I reminisced about sitting on the couch with my dogs, leisurely getting up whenever I wanted, going to the bathroom without feeling like someone’s well-being depended on whether I did it now or when they were asleep.

But I also had this other strange, dark cloud come over me.  I would just sob and sob sometimes, especially in the shower when I was trying to finally step away from her and trust that she would be okay with my husband.

I didn’t understand: I LOVED this baby, why was I crying?!  Why did it feel like the house was filled with sadness?

I did some research and found something that was NEVER discussed with me at all, at any point in my pregnancy, at the hospital, I don’t even remember reading it in the books I’d read: there is a MASSIVE drop in hormones after the baby is born.

The body goes through something HUGE after birth.  Not only is it recovering from the physical trauma, everything that has been surging through your blood for the past nine months is suddenly gone!

So now I knew what it was, but what to do about it?  Well, I also had researched soy milk a lot because I knew I would be choosing soy formula if I decided to supplement.  In everything I’d found, I learned that soy can actually be a hormone regulator, adjusting imbalances in the body.

I started drinking more soy milk, tried to move more, get out in the sunlight as much as I could (no easy feat in the Midwest in February), and eventually I felt “normal” again.  I still struggled with breastfeeding, but I didn’t go into depression.

If this initial dark weight doesn’t pass, make sure you discuss it with your doctor as soon as they can get you in.  You may have entered postpartum depression and need help.  Being a brand new mom can be so hard, especially if you are prone to anxiety, desperate to breastfeed, have a baby with an “always hold me” temperament, and ESPECIALLY if you have little or no support from a partner. 

You are not abnormal at all.  This is part of it.  It’s not all baby booties and lullabies those first few days or weeks.  It can easily be: “Oh my God, what have I done?!” 

Especially for women that are used to always knowing what to do, super controllers and over-achievers, really any mom that doesn’t step into vulnerability much.  Having an entire LIFE in your hands and crazy changes happening in your body, on top of being seriously sleep-deprived, can lead to dark thoughts, sometimes of despair.

If you’re reading this and this is you right now, PLEASE reach out or ask your doctor or midwife for resources in your area.

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